Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Why Jill Needs Those Reminders

We are moving into our 3rd month of living a Domestic Discipline marriage.
We've read articles, books, blogs, websites and what ever we could read to find guidance in making our own decisions about what works for us.

Some sites urge HoHs to punish their TIHs  for the smallest infractions.
Other sites deem communication as the most important factor in a Dd relationship/marriage.
There are blogs that advocate reminder and maintenance spankings - hoping these will keep the heavy discipline punishments at bay.
Some advocate daily spankings, and others a couple times a week or when necessary.

We're finding out what works for us - and at the moment, I find relinquishing total control to Jack very difficult. Therefore I appreciate reminders to help me find my new role and give up the old.
The dynamics of a Dd relationship are so different from what we've lived before.

I don't want to change my personality, but I do want to be submissive by handing over control to Jack and letting him know how much I appreciate all he does.

I think I'm at the stage where I don't really know where I am!! - I'm kind of on my way out and on the way into something - like having a foot in each world!!

All I know at the moment is, that our version of Dd has helped our marriage to a better place.

With hope for Peace in the new year.
Season's Greetings to all you wonderful people out in Dd land!
Jack and Jill


  1. We are in the same place, Jill - which is to say, we're still finding our place. :) So glad that you posted.

    1. Thanks Elisa.
      We started out trying everyone else's recipe for Dd, but have used time to find out what works for us.
      We are all very different - right?
      Happy holidays

  2. I feel like it's been a year for us and we are just now finding our place and beginning to figure out what works best for us and the "hows" and "Whys".

    I don't believe all sites have the end all be all of ways to go about TiH, Dd, TTWD - and for me, it's just collective of ideas that mesh well enough together to make each and every relationship unique - working out the same, but different for everyone.

    We both agree that our version is also helping our marriage to be a better place as well! :)

    May you continue to explore and grow in your relationship!

  3. Hi Jill,
    Gathering information and forming your style of a DD relationship by sharing your knowledge together, is a wonderful approach to finding what works best for an individual couple.
    I would agree that building communication through discussion is an important key element.
    Wishing you peace and a tranquil new year,

  4. Lately I've found that just when I think I have it figured out something else comes along. Good luck you guys.

  5. I agree with Emi. We use our own mixture and we are definitely still figuring it out!

  6. Thanks for your support and input.
    I think I would be paranoid if I were punished for every little thing - it would be like walking on egg shells!
    We are trying to incorporate Dd to iron out the wrinkles and to learn to take responsibility for behavior and attitudes that rock the boat and make bad vibes.
    So far - so good.

  7. I'm feeling the exact same way and have had a hard time trying to write my next blog entry because of it. Excellent post!