What Is A Spanking Good For?

Sometimes I come off sounding like I agree with the spankings some of my DD girlfriends get.
I guess I do - but that's because I chose this lifestyle and so did they!!

Domestic Discipline means:
that women are disciplined by their husbands. We have, through discussion, made common rules to live by, enforced by our husbands. 

We have also agreed to work hard on being submissive and obedient to them.

Now, why would any woman in her right mind choose to live in a relationship that entails being spanked and disciplined?

Well, here are some of my reasons and others I've read around the DD Town::

- feel free to add your own:

A spanking is good for:
balance and release
changing bad habits
reaching goals
pleasing your hubby
learning obedience
learning to be submissive to your hubby
keeping safe
correcting bad behavior
adding a little spice to your love life
learning to show respect
making your HoH feel he is the ultimate head of the house
following the rules and guidelines of the house
for reminding you to honor, care and show your love for your HoH
To stop contradicting, bickering, arguments, control and anger issues
For learning to be a good role model for your children.
For letting men be men!
To learn that all major decisions are made by the HoHs
To learn to abide by those decisions
To accept all punishments (with gratitude)
To never show disrespect or talk behind your Hubby's back. (dissing your hubby)
To be feminine
(some have even stricter rules - that might include)
Keeping a clean house
Feeding and taking care of the family
To do the daily chores, well.
To keep a quiet house and serve your HoH when he comes home.
To dress according to the HoH's likes
Personal hygiene - shaving or not
To keep HoHs informed of what goes on during the day
To be humble
To learn to  please his needs at all times.
To not go over budget

At some time or another, I've broken many of these rules, but spanking has helped me back on track - and for that, I'm grateful.

Hugs
Jack's Jill

How Discipline Benefits Both Jack and Jill

Domestic Discipline is like a circle.
What goes round, comes round.
Discipline is beneficial to both man and wife.

In a DD relationship, the two partners have agreed to a power exchange.
One is the leader of the house and the other is the submissive.
But not only does the submissive have to work on changing her behavior, so does the HoH.

We made a list of things we both would work on to make our relationship better and more loving.
I have many things I have to work on and change for us to have a happy home.
 
My Jack doesn't have many at all - but he does have anger issues which he is working on. 
What helps him the most is when he disciplines me.
 How, you ask?

Imagine the following.

I might say something that Jack misunderstands. Instead of asking me for an explanation, 
he gets angry and yells at me.

 I yell back that he is not listening to what I say!
He then tells me to be quiet, which I don't, because I know this is a case of misunderstanding.

When he tells me to be quiet again, to avoid an argument -  I turn my back, walk out of the room and slam the door.

Later, when Daddy Jack has had time to think -  he discovers the error, he apologizes and I forgive him immediately, because that is what we agreed upon.

But that doesn't change the fact that he needs to spank me for being disobedient (yelling back at him) and being disrespectful (by turning my back and slamming the door)

Knowing he has to discipline me upsets him, because he has to spank me for a dilemma that he put me in. 
If this helps him become more aware of his anger issues, then I am more than happy to be disciplined.
He is my husband, my HoH, my love, my leader - he comes first.
So we both benefit from discipline - in each our own ways.
He learns that his actions have consequences for the both of us.
That is the beauty of Domestic Discipline. 

Hugs
Jack's Jill 

 

 
 

Jill's Honesty Journal

Dear DD wives and friends!

I've been reading about journals, punishment books and lists that DD wives have written and then shown to their husbands.
I have also read about daily confessions and even women who have cameras installed in their homes, so their hubbys could keep an eye on them when at work.
Let me start by saying that I do not judge. 
If a wife and her HoH have decided that there should be cameras in their home - and they are happy with this and the wife feels safe and secure- and it works for them - I'm all for it.        To each his own.

I was deeply inspired by the fact that these wonderful women told their hubbys everything  DD related - they did during the day, both good and bad.
You may wonder why...................
but I totally understand why. 
It was to give their HoHs more authority and control of the house. 
He is the leader - he should know what goes on and if his wife is or is  not living up to her goals.Knowing what goes on, gives the husband the option to make decisions and discipline - if necessary, even though he isn't at home at the time of the infraction.


I see nothing wrong with this. But is does demand  love and trust - from both spouses.



An example from a journal:
One submissive wife had a bad habit of swearing, which her HoH was working hard at changing - but he had the problem of not knowing if she swore at home when he was a work. They both agreed that this was a problem, both at home with children and in public.
Being an honest woman - she decided to write down in her journal every time she swore during the day. This pleased her HoH because he could discipline her when he came home from work -  to help her change her bad habits - and it worked!!
 
What a beautiful form of honesty.
I've decided to try to write all the good things and bad things I do during the day and letting my HoH read them every night.
I believe the more my HoH knows what I do, the more in control he is.
I will gladly take the consequences - because they are for my own good - and I know my HoH will do anything he can to help me be a really good wife.

I chose this lifestyle, because I wanted to change my bad attitude with the help of my Hubby.
I would love to hear from others who have tried this.
I think I will learn a lot from this!

Hugs
Jack's Jill

Happy Valentine's Day!

The Freedom of Domestic Discipline

If you're one of the lucky who have incorporated DD into your marriage later in life, or after the kids have moved away from home - I can only say what a freedom it is!

No worrying about the kids hearing mommy being spanked.

No trouble with corner-time and the kids coming in seeing mommy naked or  with her panties down around her ankles standing in a corner contemplating the reason for her discipline!

Not having to worry if the implement your HOH has decided to spank you with is noisy or not.

Hubby having the option to discipline anytime, anywhere he pleases.

Being able to pleasure and please him whenever - wherever!








If you feel the immediate need for maintenance - you can pull down your panties and be maintained  right then and there on the spot!




The freedom of a whole house to yourself is fantastic!
I've done my mommy duty - and am now enjoying the joys of wife duty!

Hugs from a happy sub!
Jack's Jill

Jack and Jill Say Thank You!

We learn everyday. 
We learn from all you wonderful people who live a Domestic Discipline lifestyle.

Thank you all for sharing with us. You have been an inspiration!

Along the way, we've read things that made sense to us.
We've read things we could relate to, and things we couldn't!  But, hey, that's fine - we learn from everything we read and from everyone of you!

Reading back - we can see that we are evolving all the time, and what we thought back then, we had to leave behind to move forward. And who knows? In the future, we'll probably be somewhere completely different. That's fine too  - One step at a time.          

We are constantly talking about all the wonderful things that have happened since beginning our journey - and are amazed at how these wonderful changes have enhanced our love life, our passion, our form of communicating, our sex life and our need for one another.

My Jack has a wife who loves, adores, respects, tries to obey (working on it, folks!) is working hard on my goals of being a good submissive and caring wife - who puts him first above all others.
I have a husband who is working hard to become the leader of our household, making good decisions, disciplining me when I get off track, loves me and is getting better each day at admitting his mistakes and apologizing. Who could ask for more?
We have moved from a stagnant marriage to a dynamic one! 

Domestic Discipline has - in our opinion -  nothing to do with religion or race, color, creed, background or upbringing.
It has to do with the dynamics of a relationship. the division of roles. A marriage.
We do things to please each other, with no other intent or purpose than to give pleasure.

Thank you all for sharing with us - you have made a big difference in our lives.

Hugs from
Jack and Jill   

The Holidays with Jack and Jill

A look back on the holidays.................. 

Ahhhhhhhhhh, the holidays!
A week off from work! Time to relax. Time for family. Time for fun. Time for freaking out!!!

I wonder why the holidays are such a stressful time of year - especially for us "subs"?
I think we try too hard for perfection.

A normal holiday in the house of Jack and Jill:
Ok - so there are going to be guests - will they judge us on how clean our floors are?
Probably not - but ok - I'll wash the floors anyway, 
and make a great dinner, -------------------------------------------->
and wash the windows, 
and vacuum the rugs 
and wash down the counters, 

and buy the presents and wrap them too, while I'm at it.







 
Oh, yeah - lots of people spending the night - so out comes the guest beds. (fold up kind)
and now for bedclothes,pillows, blankets, lamps to make it cozy.

No wonder I'm a wreck during the holidays!

There went family time, unless you count the time spent over hubby's  knee!!

I wonder how my Jack takes it all in his stride. 
I wish I could take a page out of HIS book.
But I don't know the title or where to buy the book!! 





Any clues of where that book can be found - would be much appreciated.
Until them.............................thank goodness Christmas only comes once a year!

Happy 2013

Jack's Jill 

A New Year and a New Beginning for Jack and Jill

So begins a new year.

A very different start to a new year, than last year, to say the least.
We have embraced Domestic Discipline and I don't think we'll ever look back.

I wrote on a blog somewhere, that I truly believe that there would be fewer divorces, if people lived a DD lifestyle.
Those who have embraced this lifestyle are looking for ways to make their marriage/relationship work - and to change the dynamics and roles is a big job - but so worth it!

We had our talk today about how things are going. We looked at our list and added some new goals we want to work on for the next 2 weeks. I am going to need help with these goals, and luckily Daddy Jack will help me to keep me in the right mind-set towards my goal of being a content, submissive wife. Jack has promised to give me light reminders 4 times a week and corner/thinking time, if he feels it's necessary.

On the other hand - I don't understand people who choose this lifestyle and then do everything they can to "break rules", brat, contradict and negotiate. That just doesn't make sense!
We've agreed that the only time I am to be spanked as punishment is if I break any of the 4 D rules. To be honest - I love him, why would I disobey, disrespect, be disloyal or dishonest to the man I love?
If things aren't going to satisfaction - then weekly talks should help. I'm not a mind reader, and neither is Jack, therefore those weekly talks are really, really important. It's the only way to know what each other is needing and to be on the same page.

I'm also looking forward to Jack giving me bedtime curfews - I know my mornings will be so much better, if he makes me go to bed earlier than I usually do. Some might think this is micro-managing, but I consider it a great help. I am a night person living and working at a day job.

Jack will be working on being attentive to my needs and his  new responsibilities as head of the house.


That's about it for now.
Looking forward to a wonderful year!
Hugs
Jack's Jill