What goes round, comes round.
Discipline is beneficial to both man and wife.
In a DD relationship, the two partners have agreed to a power exchange.
One is the leader of the house and the other is the submissive.
But not only does the submissive have to work on changing her behavior, so does the HoH.
We made a list of things we both would work on to make our relationship better and more loving.
I have many things I have to work on and change for us to have a happy home.
My Jack doesn't have many at all - but he does have anger issues which he is working on.
What helps him the most is when he disciplines me.
How, you ask?
Imagine the following.
I might say something that Jack misunderstands. Instead of asking me for an explanation,
he gets angry and yells at me.
I yell back that he is not listening to what I say!
He then tells me to be quiet, which I don't, because I know this is a case of misunderstanding.
Later, when Daddy Jack has had time to think - he discovers the error, he apologizes and I forgive him immediately, because that is what we agreed upon.
But that doesn't change the fact that he needs to spank me for being disobedient (yelling back at him) and being disrespectful (by turning my back and slamming the door)
Knowing he has to discipline me upsets him, because he has to spank me for a dilemma that he put me in.
If this helps him become more aware of his anger issues, then I am more than happy to be disciplined.
He is my husband, my HoH, my love, my leader - he comes first.
So we both benefit from discipline - in each our own ways.
He learns that his actions have consequences for the both of us.
That is the beauty of Domestic Discipline.